The Divine Crash

Have you ever thought you could control things? Or that you had everything under control?

Maybe you thought you had your kids under control and then they did something that you didn’t want them to do.

Recently my son figured out how to get out of his bed and out of his room.  Now, when he wakes up at 6am my son comes into my room and wakes us up.  This is very cute, once.

I have lost control of my son’s wake-up routine.  Or did I never have control in the first place and the control I thought I had was only pretend?

I would suggest that no one has control over another person.  We may try to force people into doing something that we want them to do and it may even work for a little while but it won’t work if the person doesn’t go along with it.  However, external control by force, violence, or manipulation can make people go along when they normally wouldn’t.

So ultimately we have no control over another person unless we do something to convince them we have control.

What do we do with this lack of control? Some will still try to force control on others and some will revert in on themselves and avoid all conflict.

What if the answer is somewhere in the middle of that?

What if the answer is not in controlling people or avoiding it all but in maintaining control of the self.  Maintaining control of our own person so that we can be our own person without fear of being manipulated or controlled by another person.

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